Do Spirits Care About Their Death Anniversary?
Updated 2025.05.07
Thinking about how to commemorate someone special on the Other Side? Do you need to have or want to create a death anniversary ritual to celebrate your loved one? How does your loved one feel about all of this, anyway?
Every year, in the second week of December, I get quite sentimental.
When I was in college, my father died the week of fall semester finals and it was right before Christmas. This put a heavy cloud over my holiday season for many years - until I shifted my view on it.
Over the years, I’ve been sad and mourned the loss, but once I started practicing mediumship professionally, I’ve tried to do something fun that we would’ve liked to do together - like go to a cool museum or restaurant.
As I started doing readings for others, I began to wonder - does he even care that we make a big deal about this day?
Would he rather we just save ourselves a day from sadness and remembrance, and forget about it altogether? Does he want me to take a whole day to remember him and do nothing else? Go out to dinner? Just make note of it and go on with our day? What does he want to see?
And, if you’re reading this, you may also be thinking,
What should I do to best celebrate, remember, and honor my loved one?
The answer is simple:
Ask, what would they want you to do? Think about their personality.
If they would’ve wanted you to celebrate their birthday, likely they want you to do something to commemorate them, as long as it lifts you up.
Truth is, when your loved one crosses over, while they may have more perspective, and have had a chance to take a timeout and reflect, only a tiny bit changes about ourselves.
For most of us, when we cross into the Light, we do become elevated versions, like the emanation of our Higher Self.
Your mom is still your mom. Your best friend is still your best friend, but better - more joyful, more relaxed. Like themselves, but very well rested.
Their personality is the same as it always was, but most lower vibration moods are gone and they are freed of a physical body. Thus, they would want you to do for them what you may have done when they were still with you on earth.
Would you have taken this person on an all-day excursion of fun, adventures and new restaurants? Go on a fun adventure - either alone or with another to share in the journey.
Birth anniversaries (birth-days) are like death anniversaries in what is being celebrated.
In essence, they both celebrate the beauty of life, and the beauty of your loved one’s being.
Ask, what would mom have wanted for her birthday? She'd want you to have fun and so, try to recreate that.
Have a small cupcake for yourself, with a candle. Sing a song, and enjoy it for the both of you. Remember how much your person or pet loved XYZ, and the fun you had picking out the best present in the shop.
If your loved one couldn’t wait to celebrate their birthday, chances are, they would like their death anniversary to be remembered, as well.
Even in the smallest amount, most people in Spirit like to be thought of even for just a minute.
Even if it’s just to say “Happy Birthday,” you may choose to just wake up that morning and say, “I love you, person/pet who transitioned,” over a cup of coffee - and let that be all.
No matter what you choose to do to celebrate the life of your loved one - they just want you to be happy.
So treat your loved one's death anniversary as you would a birthday. Have fun. Do something special and kind for yourself.
For many of us, including your loved ones on The Other Side, prefer to remember the times of their lives they shared with you, rather than those times where they were without you.
If you celebrate at all, celebrate Life, not Death.
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