Coming Out Of The Psychic Closet
Photo of a moon framed in a tree branch arc, Photo by Amanda Linette Meder
Updated 2020.09.16
Coming out as an intuitive, medium, psychic, or energetic service provider can be a vulnerable experience, but once you do it, it can feel liberating.
If you're thinking of finally letting others see the real you, and want to know the best way to do it, in this post we discuss.
When you're coming out of the psychic closet, most people's biggest fear is, of course, rejection.
As you do it, you learn who in your circle is willing to love and appreciate you for who you are. You also learn who, at that point in their soul journey, is unwilling or unable to accept.
Learning who is unable to accept you for who you are can be a difficult pill to swallow. But it usually doesn't take long before the Universe guides you towards spending more time with people who do.
In the end, lots of people will accept you or even find parts of themselves through you.
Once you start to identify where the friendly waters are, you naturally move towards places with greater acceptance because the soul is continually seeking union.
As you come out, whether professionally or personally, think of it as a journey to finding where your soul is supported the best.
Like finding our kindred spirits or soulmates, we may not always hit the mark on the first try. It may take three attempts. It may take eight.
But as we honor our soul more and more, our manifesting power will become more significant, and our ability to attract those more gentle on our soul will increase.
In the meantime, know that coming out as a psychic, medium, or alternative wellbeing enthusiast to your current social circle may not be a reflection of where things will be forever.
You may find yourself in a completely different environment in a couple of years.
Below are a few tips to make that journey a bit softer while you get there.
8 Tips For Coming Out Of The Psychic Closet
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1. Wait Until You Are Confident In Your Abilities
When you are first coming out and testing the waters, any negative or doubting comment can cause you to go running back inside. People may sense your uncertainty, which can trigger insecurity within them, and they may react.
Give yourself time to become more confident in what you know and believe, and then, come out of the closet when you know that your gift is real, when you feel it.
To me, this is like starting a new skincare routine; for the first few months, you may keep it to yourself until the results start rolling in.
2. Observe Others Who Have Come Out Before You
Read their books. Their blogs and their videos.
Identify any tips they mention that helped them stay strong. These tips can get hidden in the articles about other topics.
Find someone you admire and just observe how they act now.
Observe those who come out of the closet before you, and see what happens.
If you watch long enough - you'll see that, yes, it did work out alright, and that'll give you the comfort you need to come out when it's your time, even if you do have to lose a few friends in the process. You will gain others.
3. Share Yourself Gifts First With Others Who Already Appreciate
This may mean paying clients. It may mean family members.
In the past three months, who spiritually reflected back to you the love you like and want to receive? What project did?
A great way to identify this is to look back and ask what made my soul smile.
Wherever your soul smiled is where you want to give your gifts a bit more in the upcoming times.
It can feel vulnerable when you come out psychically or even when you raise to your next level.
Giving to those who give in the way you want to receive does keep the energy more balanced and more comfortable to handle as you adjust to this next phase.
Those who love you, care about you genuinely on a soul level - whether or not you have shared with them any hints or tidbits to the intuitive side of who you are - they already know.
Come out and share here first, then expand beyond.
4. Know For Some, Accepting Your Abilities Would Force People To Reorganize Their Entire Lives
To accept your gifts, and accept you as a person, some people would have to reorder everything they have ever learned and known, everything that they have ever experienced, the situation of their current lives, and the outcomes of their future.
This prospect can be scary and daunting.
Usually, people do work their way around their fears, so try to accept people where they are. You can hang out in other places. You can occasionally encourage acceptance. You can also just love people even if they need a model of it first.
Rather than restructure an entire belief system, it is much easier to reject a single person. For many, the easy route is not only safer, but it is all their soul can handle.
If someone refuses to accept who you are, simply understanding their soul is not ready for this kind of information can be all that is needed to move on.
Something you can do is wait for questions.
When people ask a question about your gifts, however it sounds, it's usually a sign they're open for the information you have to share.
5. Explore Different Ways To Define What You Do
The way you describe something to someone can have a profound impact on how a person or group of persons receive the information. Have fun with coming up with a variety of more gentle and compassionate ways to say what you do.
Explore euphemisms, nicknames from old Hollywood movies, and even more mainstream titles that may still describe your job.
For example, I do readings. I'm also a internet publisher with this website, so sometimes I just tell people I'm a digital publisher.
Sometimes I say that I counsel those who are grieving, or that I do freelance consulting work. Occasionally I will say that I teach others how to open up their intuitive gifts or that I connect individuals with their loved ones on the other side.
All of this is true.
Generally, I've found that flat-out sharing with someone I've never met that I'm a psychic medium gets widely varying reviews.
Read the energy and depending on where you are, you may have different names for what you do or certain cultures of people where you can describe your work in a way that takes the edge off and softens it.
You have permission to be mutable.
6. Embrace Peace
The path of a psychic or intuitive is one that often teaches ways back to peace. You may have different tools you use or things you recommend, but it's usually all different ways to bring people back to the source.
Focus on embodying this with your supplements, your lifestyle, even your tone of voice. The more you do this, the more your way speaks about the acceptability of your work, more than you ever have to.
Whenever someone calls me a name or declares some untrue thing unless my freedom is at stake, I just smile on their path of growth, and usually, at that moment, I've pulled another direction.
7. Get A Journal For Validations
Get a notebook. Make it fancy and personalized.
Designate this journal for one thing and one thing only - to record all the times when you were right. Each time you felt something accurately, saw something that was entirely on target - write it down.
At the very least, savor these moments. Pause and relish in the times your intuitive hits were accurate because these exceptional memories will help you when your commitment is tested later on.
Whenever you feel doubt, go back through your validation book and raise your confidence.
8. Have Compassion With Yourself
Some days you are going to feel amazing, and know in your heart that sharing your intuitive gift with the world is genuinely and honestly serving your greatest and highest good, and beneficial for the Universe at large.
Other days, you are going to feel down and a little sorry for yourself.
C'est la vie
During these times, remember the days before you came out of the closet? Yea, those days - the very same thing happened all the time.
Know that as you move along, emotions start to level out, and fear subsides.
Be gentle with yourself as you come out and try to hang out around others who are gentle with you, make you laugh, or look for places where you can find people who do both.
In The Membership, we have a private group called The Spirit Lounge for this.
As you become more confident in your gifts and get more comfortable with explaining yourself in confidence, your doubts will subside, and your confidence will grow.
The Psychic Closet. 8 Tips for Coming Out of The cCoset with Ease. Photo of a moon framed in a tree branch arc, Photo by Amanda Linette Meder with text overlay.
Have compassion with your new venture into a new way of being. Coming out is a massive leap of faith, a learning experience, and a giant step forward in the path towards self-acceptance. It also helps the world at large become a little freer.
Still coming out of the psychic closet is a delicate time for anyone, give yourself patience and time, and experiment with what helps you feel comfortable.
The goal, is that your Angels are guiding you to a more blissful place, and your work ensures others get there, too. So, you can usually expect that most of the journey will be magical and the coming-out part is just a temporary period.
Embrace this time to feel proud of your abilities, and as you continue to develop them, your confidence and secureness of yourself will grow. The doubters may fade or if they don’t, you may be bothered by them less.
The most important thing is that your work is going to help tons of people.
If you do encounter a skeptic, you can use argument enthusiasts and blatant public questions as opportunities to refine your message and learn more about what you do and about where education is still needed in the field.
These are also those who aren't necessarily against what you do but do enjoy a lively intellectual conversation. These people can help refine your message too.
In The Membership Program, we've gone over how to explain your gifts to skeptics and non-believers. Many of the videos, meditations, and articles from these previous lessons are still available in the center's archives.
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