How To Set Boundaries In Your Life
This post is an excerpt from my eBook, Spiritual Security.
Setting your boundaries creates a healthy limit for what you will and won’t accept into your energy from now on. Boundaries can include time, distance or emotional limits on outside energies to maintain the sacred spiritual space around you.
You can use boundaries to redirect your energy to connect with things that lift you up and you can set boundaries with any outside energy you welcome into your energy field:
Food and drink: boundaries with the types of foods, drinks and substances you enjoy
Situations and events: boundaries with how long you go to certain events and which events you attend
Physical people: boundaries with friends, family and work acquaintances, including when/with whom you interact, and what you share
Spiritual energies: boundaries with when you connect to your spiritual allies, like Loved Ones, Angels, Guides and Source Energy
You can use boundaries to focus on important tasks or align yourself with what makes you feel the best, most supported and happy. You can set boundaries to prevent anything or anyone carrying negative energy from lingering in your space, which can cause empathic overwhelm. You can also set boundaries to let yourself and the Universe know that you are no longer interested in participating in certain patterns.
Even if there is nothing you can do to change your physical circumstance or remove yourself from the presence of low energy individuals, you can set firm boundaries for interacting.
How to set boundaries
To set your boundaries, simply ponder or get out a pen and a pad of paper to make a list.
Answer these questions:
In my physical life, who/what can I identify as a low energy sink? What people or influences bring me down? Who/what can I identify as a person/influence that lifts me up?
On a spiritual level, what types of low vibrational energies do I want to keep at bay? What types of high vibrational energies do I want to welcome in?
On a personal level, what type of emotions, thoughts or beliefs do I wish to reject and release? What emotions and thoughts do I want to bring in?
Are there any situations keeping me down that I’d like to walk away from? Are there any situations that light me up and refill my cup?
Make a list of who and what you want to keep out and welcome in.
Anything that brings you down, including people, spiritual energies, emotional states and situations are what you want to stay away from and reduce.
Anything that lifts you up, including people, spiritual energies, emotions and situations, you want to make space for and bring in.
How to enforce your boundaries
To enforce your boundaries, start by quietly using them as a guideline for what you will give your attention to and what you won’t.
What gets my priority attention first thing in the morning?
What thoughts and emotions will I entertain?
At what point in engaging in something will I let it go?
You can block low energy from entering your space by not responding to it and by decreasing the attention you give to it.
After that, you can choose to tell others of these boundaries or not. If you think that explaining your boundaries would make it worse, or if you have and it hasn’t evoked change, then don’t share your reasons for giving attention to certain things over others. Just act.
Next, ask Source Energy to help you demonstrate your boundaries, perhaps ask the Divine to help you focus on what you want to give your energy to and assist you with blocking distractions to help minimize interactions with unwanted energy.
Those in alignment with your highest good will reinforce, respect and honor your boundaries. They will even help you achieve safe, sacred boundaries.
What if I can’t clear individuals/influences with low energy from my life completely?
If you can’t eliminate some of these energies completely, create a time or interaction boundary. Some of these situations you simply interact with after work or in certain scenarios, like only during certain hours of the day, on weekends or special events. You can also place a boundary on specific actions that will produce a specific result.
For example, if Y happens, then I do X.
For example, you could put a boundary on the way someone speaks to you that would warrant a specific response.
If you are presented with the opportunity to interact with a person or situation that brings you down, you can walk away, go silent or politely share your need to take space from this influence.
All in all, you can create healthy boundaries by identifying what feels good for you and focusing on giving your attention to that and limiting your interaction with what doesn’t.
Best of all, by simply changing the way you interact with what you want to have stronger boundaries with, you’ve added more power to the boundary.
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